“Patience is BITTER, but it’s fruit is SWEET” – Aristotle. Parenting requires you to persevere and have patience which is kind of bitter to do a SUCCESSFUL PARENTING JOB which will be sweetest at the end. Going through child rearing duties and responsibilities right from childbirth and training them through each development stage could be so hectic that most parent lose their patience and perseverance which are very necessary. As a parent, when you lose yours, your child looses his or hers too… then it becomes a war in this parenting field. This article lay more emphasis on these questions such as; What is Patience? What is Perseverance? In what ways do parent make this mistake often? How do we exercise and also help how to children to exercise them too?
What is PATIENCE?
Patience is the capacity or ability to endure something tedious such as provocation, annoyance, pains and misfortunes without complaint but with calm and strength.
What is PERSEVERANCE?
Perseverance is that quality of continuing in something even if it is difficult. It is having this tenacious mindset of not giving up. Looking at this definition, I feel both words are interwoven a bit. But they are not the same, yet very much alike. . . especially when it comes to parenting.
As a parent, try to remember when you were pregnant with your baby. You and your partner waited patiently for the appointed time. You waited patiently for the fetus to form in the womb, you waited and allowed the baby to grow properly in the womb, you also waited patiently for the expected day of delivery. Why do you preserved, endured and waited with such patience? Because you don’t want to have a premature or mal-adjusted baby. Right? But after delivery, the sweetness of our patients and perseverance do feel our heart that we never thought and even choose to forget how many months or years we’ve waited. This I’d say is the first stage we all do PASS when it comes to patience and perseverance in parenting.
As a parent, do you exercise patience and persevere as your child totters towards maturity?
Dear parent, to be successful in this parenting job you are in, PATIENCE and PERSEVERANCE must be CONSIDERED. So, adding more effort to the kind of patience and perseverance we have earlier when we are trying to have the baby must be pursued. As our child totters towards maturity there are lots of duties of child-rearing but am sure most parents can relate to some such as; Learning to walk, toilet training, trying that first set of shoes, learning to read or home schooling and much more, exercising patience and perseverance will take you through all this.
In what ways do parents make this mistake often?
How do we exercise and also help our children to exercise them too?
Truly child training must begin early but being careful is ideal… most parent are known to hurry and get so impatient with their child ‘s development emotionally, physically, intellectually, spiritually and socially. Most children, whose parent didn’t exercise patience in their up bringing may seem to cope but somewhere, somehow, they will suffer some serious setbacks.
PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, INTELLECTUAL AND SOCIAL: Patience and perseverance in children’s physical, emotional, intellectual and social growth must also be considered as they develop. As a parent you must carefully study your kid to know what approach is best, cherish them, teach and correct them along these lines of development, your teaching and training must be relevant to their age and developmental stage. There are parents who are known to rush teachings and disciplines on their children so they can act mature and well discipline quickly using means such as scolding, spanking and other kind of punishment all in the name of discipline. Inserting teachings, instructions and disciplines into children takes time, they may adapt to some quickly but because of their fallible and naïve nature you will find them making the same mistake over and over, after repeated corrections, this could be so frustrating but here is where patience and perseverance is needed… this will make you an ideal teacher, they may learn from you, learn on their own or from people around them, just humble yourself, love and honor them because they human too, don’t seek to control them and try not to lose it!
They are also parents who are known to rush their children through schools(even cutting corners sometimes) so they can get to higher institutions quickly, “this often has negative consequences” says an expert educationist. Proof of this lies in the disturbing number of underage undergraduates in tertiary institutions who continue to fall prey to all kinds of evil influences and frustrating challenges because they are neither mentally nor emotionally mature enough to deal with experiences they are being expose to.
SPIRITUAL: Patience and perseverance is also necessary in the spiritual development of children. On this aspect, parents shouldn’t attempt to intimidate or force them into religion, because it will not last. Instead, teach your child to gradually build relationship with God, not forcefully imposed. Some children do feel excessively pressurised and over sermon by their parents may even choose to dare their impatient parents by doing exactly what will annoy them and some will only pretend to follow what you want them to be. So as a parent you should patiently guide and teach your child to his or her own personal commitment to God, praying ceaselessly for them (God’s intervention) will help a lot!