Are you happy with the way your children, spouse and co-workers listen to you when you speak? Are you feeling valued at work and at home? If not, take a moment to discover a way of communicating that may enhance your life from this moment forward. Imagine how your satisfaction in everything you do will change when you feel you communicate effectively!?
Image if you can communicate without conflict and get along easily with whomever you talk to.
“Sometimes it feels as if the more we talk, the less we are heard. But Andrew Newberg, M.D., and Mark Robert Waldman have discovered a powerful strategy called Compassionate Communication that allows two brains to work together as one.In twelve clear steps, Compassionate Communication actually changes the brain structure of both participants in a way that helps establish a mutual bond. Free from conflict and distrust, we can communicate more effectively, listen more deeply, and collaborate without effort.Outlining the science, the strategies, and the practical application of Compassionate Communication in a range of personal and professional settings, Newberg and Waldman prove that words can change your brain.” (Newberg and Waldman)
The steps are:
- Stay present
- Cultivate inner silence
- Increase positivity
- Reflect on your deepest values
- Access a pleasant memory
- Observe nonverbal cues
- Expression appreciation
- Speak warmly
- Speak slowly
- Speak briefly
- Listen deeply
These twelve steps can be used in your everyday life whether you are meeting people for the first time or dealing with people who you’ve had conflicts with in the past or just talking to your family. If you are a business coach, lifestyle coach, wellness coach, executive coach or any other type of coach these strategies can be used in your coaching business to incorporate mindfulness in your practice.
If you are a parent, school teacher, or caregiver of children look at step #10 Speak Slowly as it increases comprehension.
“Slow speech rates increase a listener’s ability to comprehend what you are saying, and this is true for both young and older adults” (Newberg &Waldman).
In fact, another thing that makes a huge difference to comprehension for children and adults alike is speaking in sentences of no more than ten words. It has something to do with the way the brain ‘chunks’ information.Therefore, from now on speak slowing and briefly.
What you say and the expression you have on your face is mirrored back to the other person. To elicit trust from the person you are speaking to smile like the Mona Lisa smiles in the painting of the Mona Lisa.
How simple is that?
Above all, take the time to actively listen! It makes all the difference in the world.